Holiday Gift Giving Made Easy!

b9228e0962a78b84f3d5d92f4faa000bWe are deep in the swing of the Holiday season and with Thanksgiving and Black Friday behind us millions of men are asking the same question, what in the heck do we buy for that special woman on our list? My entire life I have been known for bad gift giving. It’s not like I don’t try. I research, ask questions, gauge interests … in short I spend time and money trying to find just the right thing but it has all been for naught. Sure I may have been guilty of the last minute gift purchase here and there but for the most part I have steered clear of the foot baths and chair massager cushions that are so popular this time of year. While I am on the subject forget “it’s the thought that counts” because if that was true then just thinking about getting your sweetheart something would suffice and there would be no need to actually buy anything and anyone who has ever given a crappy gift knows that “thought” isn’t earning you any brownie points.

So what do you do when you are blessed with the gift giving skills of a baboon but still want to surprise your squeeze this holiday season? You can take my former route and spend hours searching the Internet for just the right thing only to either buy something the wrong size, the wrong color or just all around wrong or you can take advantage of the Dream-Marriage holiday gift catalog. “Dream-Marriage holiday gift catalog” you say excitedly, barely able to contain your joy … “what is that and how do I use it”? Well I am glad you asked because we have made it easier than ever to surprise your special someone without all of the unnecessary worry. Simply click the gift icon underneath your ladies profile to visit the holiday catalog and choose from a wide range of items that are sure to make her holiday merrier. Call it cheating, call it a shortcut, call it whatever you want but remember this a good gift can warm up even the coldest Winter nights (wink wink).

Don’t think I have forgotten about those of you who haven’t yet found that one special Russian (or Ukrainian) beauty that deserves a little spoiling. Just because you haven’t met her yet doesn’t mean you have to spend the holidays alone. With the thousands of beautiful, single babes on Dream-Marriage each and every day your future bride could literally be at your fingertips! Take advantage of our 100% FREE FLIRT (limited offer I went on and on about a few weeks ago) and put yourself out there. You may not be smooching under the mistletoe with your lovely lady this Christmas Eve but it doesn’t mean you can’t welcome the New Year in style courtesy of Dream-Marriage video chat. Hurry because this free flirt offer will NOT last forever and you never want to leave a beautiful woman waiting!

 

Do American Women Still Cook These Days?

KMR_2546-600x901Did American women forget how to cook somewhere along the way? I ask mostly in jest but with the Holiday season upon us I face another year of cooking all day during Thanksgiving and Christmas because my other half couldn’t figure out how to heat up a can of chicken noodle soup let alone roast a turkey. Let me put it out there that I don’t mind cooking. I actually find it to a therapeutic, enjoyable experience and it is one of my favorite things to do in my spare time. It doesn’t hurt that women LOVE a man who can cook but this is more of an unavoidable side effect then the reason I first picked up a spatula all those years ago.

The problem is I can’t cook every day. Sure if I could I would stop at the butcher on the way home from work, grab some fresh meat , pick up some vegetables and make a gourmet style meal on a daily basis but with my work schedule and busy lifestyle this just isn’t realistic. Instead I am met at home with meals that are haphazardly slapped together consisting of “Shake N Bake”, canned sloppy Joe, and macaroni and cheese that requires nothing more than squeezing a package of liquid processed “cheese” sauce onto a pile of overcooked (yet somehow still raw) noodles. On the days she does attempt something that didn’t come from a box I get over salted or under salted things she swears are meatballs, mashed potatoes that crunch so much I would swear they were made by Frito Lay and occasionally no dinner at all because she left something in the oven too long while taking a bath (seriously …. 5 times at least).

As a stay at home mom for over almost a decade you would think that at some point the wife would have learned to cook with some sort of pride and skill but as she so eloquently puts it “cooking sucks and I shouldn’t have to do it so I don’t care if it’s good or not”. And this is not a problem that I face exclusively as an adult. Every woman in my life from my mother to girlfriends to my very own spouse were born right here in the US and lack the culinary skills of the average McDonald employee (sorry McDonalds but … well …. you know). My mom made powdered mashed potatoes and microwaved fried chicken on those nights we didn’t feast on frozen microwave burritos and pot pies but she too had no interest in actually making a meal. I do take some solace in knowing I am not alone in this area, in fact several of my friends have complained about this exact same thing over the past few months but complaining about it isn’t going to put food on the table. Now before anyone accuses me of being sexist it should be known that I am a huge fan of women’s rights and equal pay in the workplace and if my significant other was to make the kind of money that could afford it, I would be the first guy to hang up my career hat and become a “sugar baby” house husband. I would have a smile and a ready ear when she came home at the end of the day (not to mention Massage Mondays, Warm Bath Wednesdays and Foot rub Fridays) along with an incredible meal on the table. OK so even I forgot where I was going with that one but the point is I don’t believe that women HAVE TO cook but don’t we as men all have some vision of that Norman Rockwell painting in our heads of a well put together woman making a delicious meal for her family and looking damn good doing it? For most of us this is just an unattainable pipe dream that is the stuff of legends and 50′s era television but what if I told you that not only is this possible but downright probable?

So when was the aha moment when I realized that when it came to taking care of a man that Russian women were a class above the rest? Actually it started with my employment at Dream-Marriage. As the new guy in the office I didn’t know what to expect from my female Russian coworkers as the majority of my knowledge of Russians came from Rocky 4 (spoiler alert: Apollo Creed dies) and a teacher in third grade who ACTUALLY taught us that Russians were born with tails. While I figured out that Russians didn’t really have tails many years ago I did question whether Russian and Ukrainian women were as hospitable as I had always heard. I got my answer within a few weeks of starting when I was suddenly stricken with an illness and had to spend a few days out of the office. When I returned to work the women in the office doted on me serving me tea, soup and homemade dishes they brought from home. Were they being extra nice to me because I was the new guy? Was there some sort of “hanky panky” going on? Nope … this is just how they are and they seemed to enjoy it as much as I did. Many of these women are raised to take care of their men and their families and they get a real sense of pride out of doing something to bring pleasure to the ones they love. The idea of any of my coworkers serving their husbands boxed pasta, microwave chicken or fried mystery meat is laughable to me because even after working a full day they insist their families eat a well balanced, home cooked meal. I have seen the pictures of a Thanksgiving meal one woman I work with put together that looked more like something out of a magazine than something she put together with her own 2 hands. So this must just be something with the women in my company right? Wrong! I have spoken with many of the satisfied clients of Dream-Marriage (including many of the guys leaving our testimonials HERE) and they all agree that there is a certain “extra” you get from these women that you don’t get from a woman who was born here. There is a distinct cultural difference that will leave you feeling like a king in your home rather than the bumbling court jester you have felt like in past relationships (not that I speak from experience).

Do any of these things sound familiar to you? Do you have a history of inhospitable partners, entitled attitudes and/or just plain selfish women? Have you daydreamed about coming home to a hot woman and an equally hot meal? Do you long for your version of that idyllic slice of Americana where men are treated like men, women are treated like ladies and all is right with the world? Well my friend that dream is alive and waiting for you HERE … the question is are you ready to claim your piece?

 

Get Your Flirt On For Free, Free, Free!

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OK guys I will make this relatively short and sweet and while I apologize for the unimaginative blog title you have to admit it’s pretty effective. I have talked to many men who are satisfied clients of Dream-Marriage and in our conversations I realize they usually shared one common trait when joining our site. After years of bad relationships, missed opportunities or failed marriages they decided it was time to try something new and found their way to our little slice of Russian dating heaven.

Most of these guys are admittedly rusty when it comes to dating and the time honored art of talking to women (let alone the type of women you typically find on Dream-Marriage) and they say it took weeks or even months to get back into the swing of things. You will miss every shot you don’t take, every  ball you don’t swing at (and some other sports cliché I don’t feel like looking up but you get my point right?) and in honor of my sports analogies I am going to “coach” you through my EXCLUSIVE patent pending 4 step process to dramatically increase your chances of finding your own hot Russian beauty today.

Step 1: Log into your DreamMarriage account

Step 2: Flirt for FREE

Step 3: Continue Flirting for FREE

Step 4: Really? Stop reading this and get your FREE flirt on!

Seriously … what are you still doing here? At any moment of any day there are literally thousands of gorgeous Russian and Ukrainian beauties logged into Dream-Marriage looking for their match and you are now free to flirt with each and every one of them … yes I have said it again FREE! Look, I could go on and on about what you can do to boost your confidence, make yourself a better catch, improve you profile, etc. but when it comes down to it you and I both know one simple fact … none of those things matter if you aren’t willing or able to “step up to the plate” (last sports analogy I promise). So polish up those wingtips, iron your nicest Izod shirt and a pair of flat front Dockers and finish the outfit off with a Members Only jacket (because that’s what I wore on my last date back in 1987 and the ladies loved it). This is an extremely limited time offer so how much more convincing do you REALLY need to take advantage of this FREE opportunity? Check out who is online now and let us know how it goes …. who knows maybe you will be one of our next testimonials!

 

Dream Marriage Date Hacks: 41 Tips and Tricks

Since we started writing the Dream-Marriage blog we have covered dozens of topics in hundreds of posts detailing the ins and outs of international dating, Russian/Ukrainian culture, tips, recipes, success stories and just about every topic related to finding and building love from afar. The following list is comprised of some of the questions we are commonly asked as well as some misconceptions we would like to clear up as well. Think of this as your Dream-Marriage cheat sheet (just don’t tell any of the girls that I gave it to you!).

Dream-Marriage Benefits and Features

1.    At any given time of the day there are thousands of women looking for love on Dream-Marriage.com. Many women have found serious relationships and marriage by using our service and word has spread meaning our database grows exponentially each and every day. This also means that no matter where you are in the world there are bound to be members up looking to flirt, email, chat and more at all hours of the day.

2.    The number of eligible, attractive female members easily outnumbers the men, meaning guys have an almost unfair advantage when it comes to getting the attention of prospective partners. Maybe you have had some bad luck in the past but there is no bigger ego boost then getting an email from a woman who wouldn’t look at you twice stateside and having her pursue YOU!

3.    The ladies range in age from 18 to 50+ and come from a wide range of backgrounds. While there are bound to be cultural differences between yourself and a Dream-Marriage bombshell you may be surprised to find out how much you share in common as well. You like hip hop? You can find hundreds of girls who love it. You like classic cars and fishing? I’m sure we have dozens of women who love that too.  Are you really into Star Wars and your favorite food is macaroni and cheese? You will likely find at least a few women on the site who would be more than happy to dress up as your favorite wookie and whip you up a plate whenever you get the blue box blues.

4.    DREAM-MARRIAGE verifies the identity of every woman who joins the site and requires ladies to record a validation video. Once a girl enters a relationship or gets married they are removed from the site …. So consider every woman you see on your search single and ready to mingle.

5.    DREAM-MARRIAGE offers live video chat. Pictures are great and emails are amazing (remember when people used to send actual letters in the mail? Me neither) but there is nothing that compares to seeing your sweetie live, hearing her voice and making her smile … or cringe … whatever you’re into.

6.    Checkout our testimonials to read about some of the happy couples who met on DREAM-MARRIAGE. Notice anything? These are normal guys like you who decided to go “all in” and married gorgeous women they didn’t think they would have a chance with.

7.    DREAM-MARRIAGE regularly runs promotions offering discounts on credit packages, chat sessions, FREE video introductions, contests and more and we share this news with our clients through email. So ignore the joke of the day email forward your grandma sends you, the Nigerian scammer who has a lot of $$$$ for you sitting in an account and that message from your electric company with a final demand for payment (ok maybe don’t ignore that last one) but do not, I repeat do not miss out on an opportunity from DREAM-MARRIAGE because you were too busy to click on an email!

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Myths About Russian Women and Russian Dating

8.    Traditional mail order brides no longer exist. No man can buy a wife and this term is actually considered to be quite offensive.

9.    Russian/Ukrainian women are intrigued by Western men, but they’re not dying to escape their home country so badly that they will marry just anyone. Yes the odds are heavily in your favor but still be a gentleman, be polite and treat her like a lady.

10.    All Russian women are not shy, submissive housewife types who are waiting to take your orders. Are some of them? Sure, but so are many American women right here in the states. If you are looking for a submissive slave to control you are about 150 years too late but I have heard you can download the plans for a working time machine online (Delorean not included).

11.    Russian women are not all “green card scammers” or gold diggers. There are women of every race, culture and creed who want money and a successful man to take care of them. This myth has been spread and popularized by western movies and television shows but is no more true than the Loch Ness Monster, Bigfoot and Eskimos …. Wait I have just been informed that Eskimos are in fact real (my apologies to any Eskimos I may have offended).

12.    Russian women do not all hate Russian men. Many Russian women will tell you the reason they do not like the men in Russia but I am sure you can also write a list of things you don’t like about women in your country as well.

13.    Russian men are not all abusive alcoholics who don’t know how to treat women. This is another one of those myths popularized by western movies and TV. Again there are some men in Russia who are guilty of this but there are men all over the world who are plagued by the same demons.

14.    A man’s looks and age do matter to Russian women to a certain degree. Notice I said to a certain degree? Being “long in the tooth”, out of shape, bald or ??? may get you shot down at the bar where romance is usually sparked by visual appeal but on Dream-Marriage you get to know your lady over time. No matter how you look make sure you are clean and presentable in your pictures and when you do video chat  you will want to make sure you do not appear to live in filth. Let her fall in love with who you are inside and the outside won’t matter near as much.

15.    Contrary to popular belief, the women on Russian dating sites won’t marry anyone who shows interest. Most of our girls are very selective and serious about finding a mate. They will usually spend hours searching and viewing member profiles looking for a guy that catches their attention. If you are contacted by a lady take the time to read her profile before messaging her back. Show her that you have an interest in getting to know her as well and that besides admiring her beauty you also have a desire to get to know her.

Things to Know About Dream-Marriage.com

16.    Dream-Marriage is a US based business that works with a network of agencies in Eastern Europe where female members go to correspond with Western men. Many of these girls do not have access to Internet nor could they afford the photos you see on the site so they use the agencies in order to make contact.

17.    Dream-Marriage has been in business since 2003 and has continued to grow, expand and innovate since our debut.

18.    Single women must be at least 18 years old to join DREAM-MARRIAGE. All ID’s are verified by our compliance team to make sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are.

19.    Even Though the ladies’ profiles are public on Dream-Marriage, the men’s profiles are kept private. This means that your dating remains private, safe and secure!

20.    We take scamming very seriously and will investigate any and all scammer complaints.

 About Russian and Ukrainian Women

21.    Russian women’s top five turn offs include cheating, perverts, disrespectful behavior, and arrogance. While several of those things may disqualify ME from getting a Russian bride the majority of you will be just fine. An abundance of arrogance or showing off is a major no-no with most of these women so save your boasting for your friends and that jerk you work with who is always trying to one up you.

22.    The top five turn ons for these women are a good sense of humor, manners, respect, intelligence, and self-confidence. So how are you self confident without being arrogant? I have no clue because I am too busy being awesome to figure it out.

23.    Women in Russia/Ukraine tend to marry and start families at a younger age than women in Western countries but this trend has been changing over the last few decades. It is not uncommon to find many drop dead gorgeous women on the site who are in their mid to late 30s, never married and with no children.

24.    The women of Russia and the Ukraine look for love abroad for a variety of reasons. Some would like a change of scenery and some would like to live in the places they only see on TV or in the movies. Others love the idea of meeting a romantic man from another country who will sweep them off their feet … there are literally thousands of reasons women join and in our 11+ years we have heard them all.

25.    These women are not just interested in meeting men from America. We have had women marry men from Italy, Spain, Germany, Sweden, Canada, Switzerland, Hungary … the list goes on and on.

26.    Many Russian women are open to a relationship with an older man, though there are limits. Sure love doesn’t see color , age, etc but if you are old enough to be her dads dad then you are probably going to be too old for her.

27.    While the majority of women on DREAM-MARRIAGE are young and want to start a family, not every lady wants children. You can actually search based off if a woman has children, wants children later or does not want children. Be honest with yourself … she may be hot but if she has 2 kids will you want to take on that responsibility? Or maybe she doesn’t want kids at all and you have your heart set on touring the country with your band comprised entirely of your 12 children … chances are good you would not be a match. If you have a clear idea of what you want and you communicate that with any lady you talk to then your chances of finding love will increase dramatically.

28.    Many of the ladies use flowery, romantic language that may seem over the top to a Westerner. It probably seems sappy to you but this is common in many other countries. Our once beautiful language may have degraded to “what up dude” and “hit me up” but romance is still very much alive in other parts of the world.

General Tips and Advice

29.    Profile pictures matter. Avoid posting photos that are old, unflattering, or of a generally poor quality. Your profile picture is the first thing she will see about you and if you are serious about finding your dream Russian woman than make sure your picture shows you in your best light.

30.    Don’t lie! This includes embellishments about age, salary, interests, etc. Lying to impress girls may have been acceptable in middle school but you’re an adult now. If she doesn’t have an interest in who you really are then move on.

31.    Be polite and respectful at all times. This one kind of speaks for itself but unfortunately it is something that has to be said.

32.    Don’t send or request nude photos. This goes along with being polite and respectful and the realization that this is NOT a hookup site. These are real ladies and should be treated as such.

33.    Keep the first message short and sweet. Don’t spill your life story in the first email and scare her off. Also don’t bash your ex or complain about women in your country. Talk about her and what it was that made you HAVE to message her.

34.    Don’t propose marriage in the first email! Yes I see it all the time. No better way to scare your beauty off then by proposing marriage based off of her profile picture. These women are searching for serious companionship and love … not 5 minute marriage proposals.

35.    Don’t propose a visit in the first email. See #34 above …. Get to know her first before making any plans that are this grand. You will either seem like you are desperate or like someone filling their heads with big promises. When in doubt play it cool.

36.    Give a relationship time to progress. Nothing is going to happen overnight. Just like you have to build a loving, strong relationship when you first meet someone in person you will have to do the same thing online.

37.    Show interest in a lady’s language, country, and culture. She will be interested in yours and will have plenty of questions …. If you don’t have any for her it may show that you are not truly interested in her outside of her physical appearance. Hint: It is ALWAYS fun to discuss myths and misconceptions about where you live.

38.    Don’t be put off by introduction letters that seem vague. As I said earlier thanks to our ratio being “backwards” with far more women than men these ladies often search for hours on the site looking for eligible men. You on the other hand will open your email and have dozens of messages from ladies hoping to catch your eye. Your initial introduction may be short but follow-up letters will be much longer as you being regular correspondence.

39.    If you’re stuck in a rut, try expanding your search and reaching out to different women. Just because you started out talking to one woman doesn’t mean you have to stick with her. Sometimes things don’t work out and when the attraction wears off you realize you don’t have as much in common as you thought you did. There are a lot of fish in the sea so don’t be afraid to throw your line back out there!

40.    Don’t try to respond to every email or chat request you receive, you will go insane. Seriously … unless you are jobless and have a couple of guys on staff that will help you respond to these things you just can’t do it. Find the ones that interest you the most, check out their profiles and send them a message. After that just wait for the replies to flood in.

41.    This one is easy … have fun. You have some of the most beautiful women in the world vying for your attention. It’s like being on one of those reality dating shows but without all the added drama. Enjoy the ride and who knows … you may just find your hot Russian bride on Dream-Marriage!

Keep the Spark in Your Long Distance Relationship

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Sooner or later many long distance relationships end up hitting that inevitable fork in the road. The point where you have to ask yourself if will you continue working on a romance with so many miles between you or if you will you go your separate ways and wish each other the best? Do you go on another couple of months and wait for the “spark” to return or do you keep venturing on your search for someone new.  Sadly this is a problem that has plagued long distance relationships since the invention of long distance relationships but LUCKY for you I know how to fix it!

Problem

You have heard all of her stories. She has heard all of yours (although in yours you were a bigger stud, better athlete, and far richer than in real life but who says we can’t embellish now and then?). She asks you about your day and you ask about hers. You talk about your workday and your pain in the butt boss and she complains about her female coworker who was once her friend but is now trying to ruin her and take credit for her work (a complaint shared by 98% of women ever living anywhere in the world).You know she likes the color blue, hates relish, once wanted to be an actress and likes 80’s hair band heavy metal music …. now what? You, my friend are in a relationship rut. During the initial excitement of meeting someone we are flooded with a fury of emotions. We want to learn all about them, think about them often, wonder what they’re doing at random moments of the day. Your body is firing off feelings you haven’t felt in who knows how long and you never want it to end … and it doesn’t have to! In those early days of your relationship you were in the learning stage. Everything was new and you couldn’t wait to hear what was going to come out of her mouth yet. Conversations were flirty, passionate and well … fun. Who says they can’t still be?

At the beginning of your courtship you were happily sharing new experiences, possibly learning about her country, (I certainly hope you take the opportunity to learn more about where your lady love comes from if you do in fact ever plan on getting serious with her) learning to speak her language a little while trying to teach her some of yours. You sent random pictures to let her get to know you and she shared pictures of her apartment, the people in her neighborhood, her pets and so on. You LOVED getting to know her and letting her in on your world … until it felt like you had nothing new to share with her. The second you stop sharing those new experiences together and the flirting and anticipation of that next phone call turns into a routine “check in” done more out of habit than love, you can almost set a timer on your love. The good news is there is a simple solution.

Solution

So here’s the part where I blow you away with a tip so amazing you will ask yourself “why didn’t I think of that” … so here it is … DO SOMETHING! You see if you aren’t doing something then you are in fact doing nothing (thanks for the lesson Dad!) and if a relationship where you are living in the same house takes work then just think of what you should put into your long distance relationship. According to recent research a growing segment of American men over the age of 30 actually PREFER long distance relationships when looking for real, true love? Why is that? The distance between you may seem like a constant reminder of how far away your lapochka (look it up) is but think of the benefits that distance can bring to your budding relationship. You can now share experiences with your significant other in ways that you probably wouldn’t think of if she was a few miles away from you while sharing in new experiences. There is no right or wrong way to do this … each situation and relationship is different but as long as you are looking for new things you can do and share in together you are increasing your chances of dating success. For example:

1. Have a competition to learn a song, story, recite a poem, etc in each others native tongue. The first one to successfully complete the challenge earns a fun, low cost (or no cost) predetermined prize of their choosing.

2. Who doesn’t like a scavenger hunt? Ok so I admit this one may sound childish but when is the last time you took part in a scavenger hunt? Come up with a list of things you have to find and then “selfie” in front of said item. It’s a great way to have a little light hearted fun plus you get lots of pictures to show off to your buddies of your hot girlfriend.

3. Have a video date. Did you know that Dream-Marriage offers video chat as one of our services? Letters emails and phone calls are great but what could be better than having a video chat so you can see her laugh, smile and blush in real time? This one is a no brainer and has been instrumental in taking couples from the “middling” stages to the next level on more than one occasion.

4. Meet her in real life. Sometimes it isn’t boredom that dooms a relationship … it can be the realization that you may never see each other again (or in this case meet in the first place). Have you thought about visiting another country? Would you like to experience the cities, climate and people firsthand while immersing yourself in the culture? It’s probably more likely that the thought of that first kiss was almost enough to make you want to swim to your sweetie but whatever the reason what are you waiting for? Schedule a trip and see if those sparks you feel whenever you talk to her online are just as sparky when you meet in real life.

So that’s it. Will my solutions work for everyone? No. Will these scenarios apply to all couples? No. Do I ask myself a lot of questions and overuse parenthesis? Yes! Look it’s entirely possible that the luster has worn off your relationship because that strong attraction you felt when you first saw her has waned as you have gotten to know her and that’s ok. Sometimes things don’t work out for whatever reason but that doesn’t mean your search should come to a frustrating end. We have been creating marriages and long lasting relationship worldwide for over 11 years and while I don’t like to brag (ha ha) I have to admit we are pretty darn good at it. Keep looking and sending emails and with our expansive, ever growing database of beautiful ladies you are bound to find your next love right here on Dream-Marriage.

Become More Desirable (in under 10 minutes!)

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Okay so I admit the title of this blog may be a little misleading but there is no reason why you couldn’t follow these steps and become a “chick magnet” by the end of the day. With the staggering amount of gorgeous women on Dream-Marriage you are bound to ask yourself how to make yourself more desirable to these luscious ladies. There are a number of simple, common sense actions you can take that will not only make you a “catch” for beautiful Russian women but for women from any country in the world! Here are a few of our top suggestions cultivated from over 10 years of international matchmaking.

Ooze Confidence

There is a reason that women like bad boys. It isn’t for their leather jackets, slicked hair or motorcycles (John Stamos) either, the truth is confidence is sexy and for some women it is THE most important thing when choosing a partner. Ladies like a man who is self-assured because it makes them feel like he is worth their attention and they also feel protected and safe. Not confident? Don’t fret because although confidence is something that some are born with it is 100% a skill that can be learned, developed and refined over time. Think of it like the first time you got behind the wheel of a car. The nervousness and lack of confidence you felt were soon replaced by confidence (maybe even overconfidence) as you practiced and got more comfortable driving. Make a commitment to cultivating a more confident attitude, and you will find that you benefit when it comes to Russian dating, and other areas, as well.

Pick Your Picture

If you have perused our testimonials then you may have noticed you don’t have to have a full head of hair or a rock hard body to attract a Russian girl. Most Russian and Ukrainian women are drawn to a man who can demonstrate positive qualities like a caring nature, an adventuring spirit, a sense of humor and a good attitude. Sure you may type out a 4 page description of yourself in your “about me” on your profile but is your profile picture that a woman will see first. If your profile picture your profile picture does not make the right first impression a woman will be less inclined to click on your profile making your well thought out profile description superfluous. Head to your favorite barber and freshen up your haircut and style. Put on clothing that is clean, ironed (can’t believe I even have to say that but I do), looks good on you and makes you feel confident. Where you take your picture is important as well. If there is clutter and mess littering the background the viewers focus will be taken off of you and instead try to investigate the rest of the photo. The best pictures are taken in warm, natural light with an uncluttered background and with you in some sort of action shot (please, please, please not a selfie). Most importantly … smile! It makes you look more friendly and approachable because no woman wants to date a scowling, angry man.

Get Out There

You know all of those outrageously sexy women you see when going through profiles? Why not take some initiative and message the ones who intrigue you. Overcoming a fear of rejection is part of your path to confidence and if one woman isn’t interested there are bound to be several others who are. If you are looking for something that can develop into a long term relationship and marriage do yourself a favor and don’t pick based on looks alone. Sure your hot Russian bride could turn out to be the girl of your deams but if you pick on looks alone you are both bound to be disappointed down the road. Find women who share the same values you do and take the time to read about them. If you don’t want children and the woman you are messaging has 2 childen that will probably be a match that is doomed from day one. Take your time to search and find women you are attracted to beyond physical appearance and then see where Dream-Marriage takes you.
Will these tips work every time with every lady? Of course not; there is no guarantee that the women will come screaming in hysterics like you are Justin Bieber but there is NO WAY these tip will hurt. Get some confidence, post a picture that entices the ladies and put yourself out there and find your ideal partner. Who knows you may even be ½ of the next smiling couple we see on our testimonial page.

What’s Up With the Short Letters?

“I write long letters, pouring out my heart and soul to her yet when she writes back, it’s like she’s holding back. Why aren’t her letters like mine?”

So you threw all caution to the wind and decided to bear your soul to some special lady you met on our online dating network? Good for you, transparency is a trait in men that women of all walks of life respect and admire. If what irks you is the fact that she responded with a comparably shorter letter, consider yourself lucky. More oft than not, it is the response time that can wear a man’s nerves thin. “Did I scare her away? Did I tell her too much?”

In your case, you got a response, but it wasn’t the one you were expecting. The letter could have been short and sweet, but the fact that she didn’t fill up a journal has ticked you off a bit. Your reaction is perfectly natural. Having unloaded a bunch of emotional baggage, it’s only human to yearn for some sort of reciprocation to even out the playing field that is international dating. Before you go jumping to conclusions, there are a few things you should consider first:

TOO CONFUSING
It is difficult enough as is to build the fortitude to approach a woman you genuinely having feelings for, but when you throw in the dreaded language barrier, things can only get awkward. Although the Dream-Marriage online dating network has been retrofitted with state-of-the-art translation software, there are certain terms and words that will get lost in translation. Basically, no matter how evolved the tech, there are going to be some slang words that will slip through the cracks and make for some quirky exchanges. Speak plainly.

TOO PERSONAL
Are you questions too personal? Not everyone moves at the same speed when it comes to going through the paces of building a relationship. Messaging should not be a practice in interrogation. This isn’t Guantanamo Bay nor is this Spanish Inquisition. Drilling her with too many questions that burrow too deep can be misinterpreted as prying. Keep in mind, aside from a few mail correspondences you two have never met each other in person. You might as well ask her for credit card information by trying to dig into her deepest secrets.

TOO MUCH INFO
The same can be said for volunteering what the internet has colloquially termed “T.M.I” or “too much information” – there really is such a thing. Don’t confuse sharing personal information with a turning your communiques into a confessional.

The same goes for sending racy pictures or yourself or lewd comments. Definitely do not expect any self-respecting Russian woman with any sort of values to cater to that behavior. Online dating should be approached the same way you would a woman in the flesh, up-close and personal. Before you drop that “witty” pick-up line your buddy dared you to say, imagine to yourself, “would she turn red with blush or fury?” Although she can’t slap or kiss you in person, your choice of words will be the difference between a future with her or having to look for the next one.

TOO CHEAP TO DATE
Granted, the world is not exactly flush with wealth. Pinching a penny here and there is completely understandable and, in certain situations, necessary. However, when it comes to online dating and messaging, trying to cram as many questions into one communique to save money may just back fire on you. The girl on the other end has no idea how much you are spending on messages. That is really none of her concern, but the fact that you are rifling away questions may come off as someone trying to take things too fast, which touches upon the previous two points.

TO DO’S
Enough of the don’ts. How about some positives. Take things slow. Here are some tips to get the most out of your letter writing:

  • Take it slow. Don’t even think about discussing anything sexual within the first couple messages of online dating. Contrary to what many skeptics may think, Dream-Marriage is not that sort of site. Any members, who think otherwise and behave crudely, will be rooted out and banned.
  • Speak plainly. Although most of the single Russian women registered on the Dream-Marriage online dating network are above average intelligence, their English is not what one would consider fluid. As mentioned above, our translation software is fundamental, but is not equipped to keep up with slang and figures of speech.
  • Separate letters that contain lengthy descriptions, poems, or thoughts; from letters with important questions and information of which you want a direct response.

That pretty much sums it up. The rest is feeling the situation out for yourself and using your better judgment. Remember that we are here for you if you need us. Please do not hesitate to contact us should you need further assistance.

What the heck is a Mailorder Bride?

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International Dating VS. Mailorder Bride

One of the most commonly used terms in regards to international dating is “mail order bride”. While this term is offensive to anyone who has ever actually met, courted and then married someone from another country it is also commonly used within the industry to describe international dating. So while the term mail order bride is in fact considered outdated and offensive it is also tossed around within our own industry for branding and recognition purposes. Confused yet? There is no such thing as a mail order bride. There is no service that exists where you can order a bride online or from a magazine and have her shipped to your door like an Amazon prime package (don’t forget air holes!).

A Brief History

The term mail order bride was first widely used in the US back in the 1800s when men who had found financial success on the frontier but were otherwise lonely began placing “lonely heart” ads in church bulletins, newspapers and magazines across the country looking for a woman to join them. The man and woman would correspond via letter only until the woman agreed to marry a man she never met. It wasn’t until decades later that men began looking outside of the US for their “mail order brides” thus forever changing the way people think about international dating. In a nutshell we created this industry in the early days of the US and helped develop and mold it into its current state of state of the art websites, 2 way audio/video chat etc.

Russia and Ukraine

            One of the most common questions we hear is “why are these women single if they’re so hot?” to which I reply …. GOOD QUESTION! Just browsing through the pages and pages of glamorous beauties on Dream-Marriage would make anyone wonder just how in the world these women are still searching for a significant other. According to recent research a full 52 percent of Russia’s workforce is made up of women, yet they earn 43 percent of what men do in a similar position. Finding a foreign husband gives a woman a chance to leave her country and find better economic opportunities. With over 4 MILLION more women than men from the ages of 15 to 64, marriage opportunities are slim at home and worsened by the life expectancy difference between men (64 years) and women (73 years). When you factor these things together it makes sense that these smoking hot women would prefer to look outside of their country where they have a better chance to thrive both professionally and in love.

Does it Make Sense Now?

No matter what you call it international dating is here to stay. From humble beginnings in church bulletins and sparsely distributed newspapers to the high tech digital world we live in today, it has never been easier to meet and find your dream match. They may not show up in the mail but these very real women are looking for love and are as close as your fingertips. Happy searching!

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Is Your Profile Working For you?

When it comes to online dating your profile is your “advertisement” to prospective partners. Even on an International dating website like Dream-Marriage.com (where women outnumber men 5 to 1) or a domestic dating service, if you don’t put time, effort and energy into your profile you probably won’t get the response you are looking for. For the sake of this article we will break a profile into 2 sections (the visual and the content) and discuss some of the ways to improve your dating profile (and chances of finding JUST what you’re looking for).

Visual

While various studies have been conducted proving that women react less to visual stimulation than their male counterpoints this is an area that should simply not be overlooked. Your profile picture is the first thing that most people see while looking at a profile so shouldn’t you make sure that yours is the best possible representation of you?
• If you don’t have a picture on your profile ADD ONE NOW! Most people search profiles with pictures only so failing to add one to you profile could eliminate you from the majority of searches being conducted.
• Make sure your picture is in focus, clear and of just you (no kids, friends … or ex-girlfriends please). You should be the star of your own dating profile and nothing is more confusing than trying to figure out just which person in the picture has posted the profile.
• Is your favorite outfit your old high school football jersey and frayed sweatpants? Great! While it sounds like a very comfortable way to lounge around the house is that how you want to make a first impression? It doesn’t matter if the woman you are trying to attract is Russian, Ukrainian, Bulgarian, American or from Mars …. She wants to see you in something that represents you at your best. I’m not advising you to rent a tuxedo and get glamour shots taken but there is no reason you can’t put on a pair of clean jeans and a polo shirt for your pic.
• Smile in your picture. I will say that again for maximum impact, smile in your picture! Brooding, angry, mysterious glares work great for teenage vampires and rock stars but if you are neither of those then give up the “mean mugging” and put on a happy face. A smile conveys warmth, compassion, a sense of humor and according to research can awaken feelings of familiarity to complete strangers. You would smile if you met one of these beauties on the street so think of your completed profile as your smiling, approachable wingman working for you 24 hours per day, 7 days a week.

Content

This is the area that most people seem to have a problem with when they are complaining about either a lack of responses or the wrong kind of responses on their dating profile. While a missing or confusing picture is easy enough to fix, the content of the profile is an entirely different animal.
• Write something … yeah I get it, it’s difficult to write about yourself but you HAVE to do it. Writing “I’ll do this later”, “I don’t know what to write here”, “contact me to learn more”, etc. may say you a lot of time completing your profile but it will also save you a lot of time responding to emails (because there won’t be any to respond to). Give a little information about yourself to break the ice, initiate conversation topics or weed out potential bad matches. Women want a general idea of the man they are writing to so discuss those hobbies, passions and projects you’re working on and watch the difference in emails you receive.
• Write in full, proper English. Text/web talk and slang is ok for communicating with your buddies but why oh why would you use it in an International dating profile? Many of these women DO speak and write English but they are not familiar with shorthand abbreviations or slang that is commonly used in America. Not only does it cause communication barriers but it screams of immaturity. Instead of asking her to “holla atcha boi” why not ask her to “write me back if you are interested”? The message is the same but one is much easier to decipher.
• This last one really should go without saying but I have seen it so much that it is worth discussing here. Do you hate your ex wife or girlfriend? Tell it to your friends, your family, your co-workers or your counselor but DO NOT under any circumstances mention it on your profile. Complaining about your ex in your profile could convince potential mates you are not over that ex or even worse that you are carrying too much emotional baggage. Be positive on your profile and you will get positive results in return.

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Dream Marriage Love Stories: Natalia and Michael

This week’s highlight stems from a slice of life taken just two weeks ago at the end May 2014. Here to share the tale of her first face-to-face with her online beau is Tatiana P. of Dnepropetrovsk, Ukraine:

“To feel tender look into my eyes! What can be better? I’m happy! It is the most precious feeling I have ever had! Thanks Dream Marriage for this wonderful meeting!”

Tatiana and Michael

There is no mention of when these two met, but time at this point, the time lapsed is mute as their future is fully ahead of them. I’m sure I speak for everyone in the Dream Marriage international dating community when I say we all wish Tatiana and Michael nothing but the best as they forge their future together. From the sound of her written testimonial, Tatiana is already relishing her choice to give Dream Marriage a chance.

Frequently Asked Questions:
“Why do Russian brides look outside their country for husbands?”

You can read the rest of Tatiana’s love story by clicking the cute couple’s photo. There are also more inspiring tales of long distance relationships  turned dreams-manifest in the Love Stories section of the Dream Marriage online dating network. If you have a tale of your own, we would love to  hear it and, if you are open to it, share with the rest of the Dream Marriage international dating community. Just private message your story to us on Facebook.

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