What the heck is a Mailorder Bride?

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International Dating VS. Mailorder Bride

One of the most commonly used terms in regards to international dating is “mail order bride”. While this term is offensive to anyone who has ever actually met, courted and then married someone from another country it is also commonly used within the industry to describe international dating. So while the term mail order bride is in fact considered outdated and offensive it is also tossed around within our own industry for branding and recognition purposes. Confused yet? There is no such thing as a mail order bride. There is no service that exists where you can order a bride online or from a magazine and have her shipped to your door like an Amazon prime package (don’t forget air holes!).

A Brief History

The term mail order bride was first widely used in the US back in the 1800s when men who had found financial success on the frontier but were otherwise lonely began placing “lonely heart” ads in church bulletins, newspapers and magazines across the country looking for a woman to join them. The man and woman would correspond via letter only until the woman agreed to marry a man she never met. It wasn’t until decades later that men began looking outside of the US for their “mail order brides” thus forever changing the way people think about international dating. In a nutshell we created this industry in the early days of the US and helped develop and mold it into its current state of state of the art websites, 2 way audio/video chat etc.

Russia and Ukraine

            One of the most common questions we hear is “why are these women single if they’re so hot?” to which I reply …. GOOD QUESTION! Just browsing through the pages and pages of glamorous beauties on Dream-Marriage would make anyone wonder just how in the world these women are still searching for a significant other. According to recent research a full 52 percent of Russia’s workforce is made up of women, yet they earn 43 percent of what men do in a similar position. Finding a foreign husband gives a woman a chance to leave her country and find better economic opportunities. With over 4 MILLION more women than men from the ages of 15 to 64, marriage opportunities are slim at home and worsened by the life expectancy difference between men (64 years) and women (73 years). When you factor these things together it makes sense that these smoking hot women would prefer to look outside of their country where they have a better chance to thrive both professionally and in love.

Does it Make Sense Now?

No matter what you call it international dating is here to stay. From humble beginnings in church bulletins and sparsely distributed newspapers to the high tech digital world we live in today, it has never been easier to meet and find your dream match. They may not show up in the mail but these very real women are looking for love and are as close as your fingertips. Happy searching!

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Is Your Profile Working For you?

When it comes to online dating your profile is your “advertisement” to prospective partners. Even on an International dating website like Dream-Marriage.com (where women outnumber men 5 to 1) or a domestic dating service, if you don’t put time, effort and energy into your profile you probably won’t get the response you are looking for. For the sake of this article we will break a profile into 2 sections (the visual and the content) and discuss some of the ways to improve your dating profile (and chances of finding JUST what you’re looking for).

Visual

While various studies have been conducted proving that women react less to visual stimulation than their male counterpoints this is an area that should simply not be overlooked. Your profile picture is the first thing that most people see while looking at a profile so shouldn’t you make sure that yours is the best possible representation of you?
• If you don’t have a picture on your profile ADD ONE NOW! Most people search profiles with pictures only so failing to add one to you profile could eliminate you from the majority of searches being conducted.
• Make sure your picture is in focus, clear and of just you (no kids, friends … or ex-girlfriends please). You should be the star of your own dating profile and nothing is more confusing than trying to figure out just which person in the picture has posted the profile.
• Is your favorite outfit your old high school football jersey and frayed sweatpants? Great! While it sounds like a very comfortable way to lounge around the house is that how you want to make a first impression? It doesn’t matter if the woman you are trying to attract is Russian, Ukrainian, Bulgarian, American or from Mars …. She wants to see you in something that represents you at your best. I’m not advising you to rent a tuxedo and get glamour shots taken but there is no reason you can’t put on a pair of clean jeans and a polo shirt for your pic.
• Smile in your picture. I will say that again for maximum impact, smile in your picture! Brooding, angry, mysterious glares work great for teenage vampires and rock stars but if you are neither of those then give up the “mean mugging” and put on a happy face. A smile conveys warmth, compassion, a sense of humor and according to research can awaken feelings of familiarity to complete strangers. You would smile if you met one of these beauties on the street so think of your completed profile as your smiling, approachable wingman working for you 24 hours per day, 7 days a week.

Content

This is the area that most people seem to have a problem with when they are complaining about either a lack of responses or the wrong kind of responses on their dating profile. While a missing or confusing picture is easy enough to fix, the content of the profile is an entirely different animal.
• Write something … yeah I get it, it’s difficult to write about yourself but you HAVE to do it. Writing “I’ll do this later”, “I don’t know what to write here”, “contact me to learn more”, etc. may say you a lot of time completing your profile but it will also save you a lot of time responding to emails (because there won’t be any to respond to). Give a little information about yourself to break the ice, initiate conversation topics or weed out potential bad matches. Women want a general idea of the man they are writing to so discuss those hobbies, passions and projects you’re working on and watch the difference in emails you receive.
• Write in full, proper English. Text/web talk and slang is ok for communicating with your buddies but why oh why would you use it in an International dating profile? Many of these women DO speak and write English but they are not familiar with shorthand abbreviations or slang that is commonly used in America. Not only does it cause communication barriers but it screams of immaturity. Instead of asking her to “holla atcha boi” why not ask her to “write me back if you are interested”? The message is the same but one is much easier to decipher.
• This last one really should go without saying but I have seen it so much that it is worth discussing here. Do you hate your ex wife or girlfriend? Tell it to your friends, your family, your co-workers or your counselor but DO NOT under any circumstances mention it on your profile. Complaining about your ex in your profile could convince potential mates you are not over that ex or even worse that you are carrying too much emotional baggage. Be positive on your profile and you will get positive results in return.

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Dream Marriage Love Stories: Natalia and Michael

This week’s highlight stems from a slice of life taken just two weeks ago at the end May 2014. Here to share the tale of her first face-to-face with her online beau is Tatiana P. of Dnepropetrovsk, Ukraine:

“To feel tender look into my eyes! What can be better? I’m happy! It is the most precious feeling I have ever had! Thanks Dream Marriage for this wonderful meeting!”

Tatiana and Michael

There is no mention of when these two met, but time at this point, the time lapsed is mute as their future is fully ahead of them. I’m sure I speak for everyone in the Dream Marriage international dating community when I say we all wish Tatiana and Michael nothing but the best as they forge their future together. From the sound of her written testimonial, Tatiana is already relishing her choice to give Dream Marriage a chance.

Frequently Asked Questions:
“Why do Russian brides look outside their country for husbands?”

You can read the rest of Tatiana’s love story by clicking the cute couple’s photo. There are also more inspiring tales of long distance relationships  turned dreams-manifest in the Love Stories section of the Dream Marriage online dating network. If you have a tale of your own, we would love to  hear it and, if you are open to it, share with the rest of the Dream Marriage international dating community. Just private message your story to us on Facebook.

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Russian Bride of the Day, Anastasia of Kherson

Yes, as is the case with most good things, that streak of girls hailing from Dnepropetrovsk has come to an end. However, today’s featured single is definitely well worth the disruption. Dreamers, meet Анастасия:

“I prefer to achieve my goals. And I will do my best always! My most desirable dream is to meet my man. I cannot live without my special one. I am in my search now and I hope I will find you soon.”

The lovely creature presented before you today is a Saggitarius from another stop along the way, Kherson. If you’re not into the whole astrological thing, Anastasia is a 25 year old operations manager of a beauty salon.

“It’s a pity that I have never been abroad, but I hope we can discover this world together! What do you think?”

Although she has never left the Ukrainian borders, she dreams of one day filling up her passport with stamps from around the world. In the meantime, she enjoys road tripping to the coasts of the Black Sea in the summer. Here’s hoping she finds a suitable travel buddy in the Dream Marriage international dating community.

What’s In A Name:
Анастасия

You can learn more about our 5’7 raven-haired Russian bride with emerald green eyes by visiting her personal profile page on the Dream Marriage online dating network. Just click either of the photos in this post and you should be redirected. You can also use her ID number 2457457 to narrow your search just as well. If you’re in need of ice breaker or something to talk about, I’d say your best bet is travel. Good luck!

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Avoiding Social Faux-Pas In Russian Speaking Countries

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Just as each nation has its own set of cultural taboos, it also has one of social faux-pas. When writing or chatting with a Russian woman it is best to not admit to certain behaviors you may engage in at home and certainly consider changing them if you and she begin to get serious. It goes without saying that if you should travel to meet her or her loved ones that you avoid engaging in them altogether while in her country.

First of all, men are expected to, well, look like Russian-speaking men. In conservative countries like the Ukraine, this means no braided or dreadlock hair, earrings, or nail polish. You are also expected not to look or act cocky, like a gang-banger or tough guy by wearing dark glasses indoors in public buildings; baring your chest; displaying tattoos; smoking cigarettes; chewing tobacco; drinking out of bottles or tin cans; pulling out your pocket knife; spitting; blasting your boom box; or even whistling when walking around outside.

do not feed the animalsAll grooming belongs out of sight, done before you leave home, or at least not until you get inside a restroom. This includes brushing your hair, your teeth, and cleaning or trimming your fingernails. It goes without saying that you don’t leave a restroom without flushing the toliet.

Animal lovers need to refrain from feeding birds, stray cats and dogs, or even your own four legged friend when within public view. You also should walk pets on side streets and avoid ones with heavy pedestrian traffic.

Humans don’t get much open kindness either if they are begging as it is not proper to give them food or drink nor should you panhandle either.

Streets are for getting where you are going. They are not for dancing (except in a designated area during a particular event), hitchhiking, jaywalking, littering, putting out your cigarette butt, stopping to hug your girlfriend, skating on the sidewalk, strolling barefoot, or pulling out your graffiti marker and leaving your mark on a building or wall.

While it may be cool to dress in camouflage or like you are a citizen cop in the United States, it is not in Russian speaking countries. Even If you have the mafia out after you, you don’t wear a bullet proof vest. Walkie talkies are definitely out of the question.

Tips/Advice:
“Dressing To Impress Your Russian Woman”

Other public ‘no-nos’ include preaching religion, taking photographs of strangers, bridges, or off-limit buildings, using binoculars (except in appropriate event settings) or summoning taxis by sticking out your thumb like you are hitchhiking.

When in a restaurant, do not attempt to get the waiter or waitresses’ attention by whistling. Tip within standard limits, not overtipping or undertipping.

Both women and elders are to be respected. This includes not striding in front of your girlfriend or female colleague so she appears to be meekly following behind. When speaking with elders, remove your cap, and do not stand with your hands on your hips like you are about to talk back to them. Asking either a woman or a senior their age is impolite.

When getting together with others, don’t use a two handed handshake and only offer it in greeting, not when saying goodbye. Don’t touch other body parts or put your hand in their hair. Slapping a bottom would be particularly offensive. If the person has a title don’t address them solely by such as “hey, doctor”. Don’t take your feet off the ground to where the sole of your shoe can be seen or stand close when talking. If you have been invited to their home do not take your shoes off when entering or sit on their floor. When seated, don’t wiggle around as if you are uncomfortable or can’t wait to leave or use a table as your footrest. Oh yes, and remove that gum from your mouth. You can talk politics, but stay away from religion.

Gestures which are fine back at home are inappropriate or have a different meaning in Russian speaking countries. Therefore do not fingerpoint, give sly winks, make ‘V for Victory’ signs with your fingers, tip your head to indicate someone is crazy or beckon someone with your index finger extended.

Perhaps two words which will serve as general guidelines in avoiding faux-pas are ‘proper’ and ‘formal’. With them in mind, you are likely to demonstrate good social graces in Russian speaking countries.

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Vladlena of Dnepropetrovsk, our Russian Bride of the Day

So far this week, the oblast of Dnepropetrovsk has dominated two of our last three headlines. Here to keep that streak going is today’s featured single Владлена:

“With all these qualities I am a dreamer, who believes that miracles still occur in our life…Actually, I enjoy many things in life and I try to be positive to them all.” 

It is that kind of positively charged energy that separates one pretty face from the next. At just 27 years of age, Vladlena still has the spunk of a 19 year old, citing dancing as her ultimate passion - “Nobody on the face of this ear can stop my from moving my feet to the music. That would be like trying to stop a natural disaster.” - whoa, see what I mean!?

What’s In A Name:
Владлена

That excerpt alone should tell you Vladlena not only has a way with words, but also a way about  her. Blessed with the dreamiest emerald green eyes, you’re absolutely helpless in her gaze as her zest for life consumes you. Our raven black-haired Russian bride-to-be also happens to speak English fairly well to boot.

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You’d never guess either, but Vladlena is an engineer – even more reason not to judge a book by its cover. Speaking of which, it’s about time you dug deeper than this blog post and discover more about Vladlena. Click either of the photos in this post and you will be redirected to her personal profile page on the Dream Marriage online dating network.

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Dream Marriage’s Bride of the Day, Julia of Dnepropetrovsk

Today’s featured single is a class act from the Ukrainian oblast of Dnepropetrovsk. Dreamers, meet the Dream Marriage Russian Bride of the Day Юлия:

“I am cheerful young lady who is ready for serious relations. I like to smile and laugh all the time!I think life is too short to spend it boring.”

Don’t let the smart glasses fool you. Julia is a fun-loving girl, who is madly in love with sports. Don’t get me wrong either. She is quite the intellectual too. To earn her way through college, Julia has made some decent money as a tutor.

What’s In A Name:
Юлия

Our soon-t0-be 24 year old Bride of the Day is quite the physical specimen. Both athletic and effeminate, Julia is a 5’9 blonde bombshell who is just as comfortable wearing a cocktail dress as she is in golfer gear. From the sound of her profile, Julia is the ideal girl for someone, who enjoys living an active life. In fact, that is exactyl what she is looking for in a potential suitor.

Looks alone, Julia is every guy’s type, but it is her interests and hobbies that really make her especially unique. You learn more about today’s featured single by visiting her personal profile page on the Dream Marriage online dating network. By simply clicking either of the photos included in this post, you should be automatically redirected over to her page.

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Dream Marriage’s Russian Bride of the Day, Anna of Poltava

Good Monday morning, dreamers. Before you sink into your usual routine of Monday mourning, we found someone who would very much like to meet you. Introducing today’s featured single from the Dream Marriage international dating community, Анна:

“From the first sight it can seem that I am rather shy, but you need to get to know me better if you want to see all my good qualities and find out that I am nice.”

Meeting new people can be a daunting task when you’re shy by nature. Being that Anna is new to Dream Marriage, we thought we’d do her a solid by making her our Russian Bride of the Day. This is a message to all you single guys out there – Anna wants to meet YOU!

What’s In A Name:
Анна

At just 26 years young, Anna is currently making her way through grad school as she makes strides towards embarking on her career in economics. Physically, she is quite easy on the eyes as you may have noticed. Her hazel eyes and her flowing brown hair frame her pretty chiseled face. She is truly a sight to behold, is she not?

Her Hometown:
The Small Petersburg – Poltava

She speaks three different languages well enough – Russian, Ukrainian, and English. Log into your profiles and test her proficiency yourself. Granted, the entire Dream Marriage site is outfitted with translation software, but nothing beats one-on-one conversation. Just click either of the photos in this post and you will be whisked away to Anna’s personal profile page. Good luck!

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Dream Marriage’s Russian Bride of the Day, Victoria of Donetsk

…and so ends the first week of June. Closing out the first round of Russian Brides of the Day is today’s featured single, Виктория:

“I am also very dreamy person and I deeply believe that our dreams can come true. We just need to do everything possible for that and never lose hope!”

Being that Dream Marriage has been in the business of turning dreams into reality for the past ten years, Victoria definitely joined the right international dating community. The 24 year old designer/decorator from the romantic city of Donetsk is new to Dream Marriage so what better way to make a splash in our dating pool than being named our Russian Bride of the Day.

What’s In A Name:
Виктория

Some of you may be a bit off-put by Victoria’s raven black hair. Granted, she lists herself as a blonde on her profile, but girls tend to change their look at a whim. It is instances like this where we encourage leary members to utilize the video format to confirm certain Russian brides’ identities in the event where too many liberties may have been taken.

Tips:
“Live Streaming Video vs. Video Clips”

Discover more of today’s featured single by clicking either of the photos included in this post. You will be redirected to Victoria’s personal profile page on the Dream Marriage online dating network. She’s new to our community so do the neighborly thing and make the first move – introduce yourself. Have a great weekend, dreamers. See you first thing Monday morning.

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Dream Marriage Love Stories: Lee and Julia

This week we highlight a brand spanking new testimonial fresh from Ukraine. Lee P. of the United Kingdom chimed this in just after having met one of his Dream Marriage pen pals, Julia, face-to-face:

Julia and Lee

“Julia and I had a lovely meeting in Lviv…I hope we will meet again in the near future to spend more time together and get to know each other even better!”

Lee’s curiosity lured him over to the Dream Marriage international dating community, but he followed his heart to Ukraine. Having booked his accommodations through Dream Marriage’s concierge service, Lee took the luxury of traveling abroad to visit a few of his love interests. Perhaps we’ll soon learn who his heart settles upon in the near future. Until then, we can just wish him the best.

Frequently Asked Questions:
“Can I skip the online dating stuff and go to Ukraine now?”

For those of you seriously considering taking your online relationship off and meeting face-to-face, there are a series of articles in the Tips/Advice/Q&A section of our blog you may find useful. There are also plenty more testimonials and love stories to draw inspiration and learn from in the Love Stories section of the Dream Marriage website. To read the rest of Lee’s testimonial, simply click the image of the lovely couple.

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